On Saying Yes and Opening Doors

2 Jun

A few years ago I watched the film “Yes Man” with Jim Carey, and a succession of bad things happened. When my friends asked me why on earth I had done things, all I could justify them with was “well, I was being more of a yes person. Rather than hiring a movie and watching it in my joggers, while eating ice-cream at speed” I thought this was fair enough. They thought me insane (April, this finger is pointing directly at you) and I soon learnt from my behaviour like a cow running at an electric fence, and resolved to go back to my comfy old NO (or as my super confident god-daughter might say, N – O spells NO!!)

But then I moved to New York for a month (“New Yoiik!” As the locals call it) alone, and decided that to enjoy my time here, I must say yes to all the things.

This weekend was a fine example of when saying yes turns out totally awesomely.

On Friday night, I said yes to drinks with my new work team. I don’t normally go out for Friday night drinks anymore, and the reasons are threefold. 1) Had got to the point where every night was drinking after work night, and I was fat and flumpy. 2) I saw no point in going for a few after work and then going home, and also saw no point in going to the pub for a tap water. 3) I liked my pjs more than I like my workmates (and I really like my workmates).

But I was being polite, and so I went out for drinks. And had a lovely time. And then, a fantastic guy who hails from San Francisco and whom I had known the grand sum of 10 minutes, invited me to a charity fundraiser.

Sounded fun. I took a cab across town with a stranger whose surname I didn’t even know, and mixed with all his friends. I bought tickets to a raffle for a Nicks game. I drank beer and danced. I had fun. I then shared a cab home with one of the friends, and split the bill with her. Perfect.

The next morning I woke up slightly worse for wear, and congratulated myself for stepping out of my comfort zone and doing something. So I did it again.


Well, not really. If you read this blog often you will know of my great bloggy friendship with Jules (her amazing blog is here). You may not know that Jules lives in New Jersey (fuggedaboutit!) which isn’t far from Manhattan. At all. But people think me strange when I say “I’m meeting my friend. Well I’ve never met her, but she’s nice!”

So she came to town and we went for wine and champagne, followed by seafood, plus cocktails. We sat in the sun, we laughed and we talked, and although we had never met before it felt like old friends were catching up.

It was awesome.

So in summary, my sermon today ends with step out of your comfort zone, do things people think you are crazy for and enjoy yourself!

Have you ever met another blogger? I was really sad to miss Sam in London, was on my way to New York!

6 Responses to “On Saying Yes and Opening Doors”

  1. prenin June 2, 2014 at 10:58 pm #

    Hi hun! 🙂

    In the CB radio days before the Government ruined it all I made a lot of friends and met most of them, having a brilliant time! :).

    These days I am more careful of other people, but several of my blog friends I have met often and a lot are on Faeces book, so I got dragged into using it as well, only to find that my old friends who insisted I join are the rarest commentators!

    I have a list of people I’m going to meet when I win the lottery, but until then they’ll be my internet friends only! 🙂

    Love and huge hugs Tinks! 🙂


  2. Jess Witkins June 3, 2014 at 1:00 am #

    How fun! Glad you and Jules got to hang out. Anything involving seafood is always a good time.

    I have met blogger friends before and I agree. Even though you haven’t met in person before, it’s like catching up with old pals. The best! Cheers!

  3. Paul June 3, 2014 at 3:31 am #

    So cool. Well done.

  4. Holly June 3, 2014 at 10:31 am #

    Awesome post!! Saying yes… Sometimes goes to fat but the sentiment is good!
    On meeting a blogger… Yes, a few times, and we’ve since been fb friends so whilst neither of us is currently blogging we message regularly!
    Is surreal but good!

  5. Go Jules Go June 10, 2014 at 12:07 am #

    I’ve already decided you have to live in New York.

  6. Sam June 12, 2014 at 6:02 am #

    I’m coming back to meet you – don’t you worry! Some of my closest mates now are bloggers I met. Which I found weird to begin with. I blame it on like minded crazy 😉

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