Dear Little Darlin’

16 Jul

I just turned 27. This is a bit of a shock to me, as in my head it wasn’t long ago that I was dancing round my bedroom to N*SYNC, wishing I could drive and hoping that my Dad would stop trying to get me to tidy my bedroom. I thought I was so grown up and that the world was my oyster, but I was still so young and innocent to the world. Wouldn’t it have been great if I could have warned and advised myself on what was to come?


The only photo I can find of me at 17. Forgive the yellow eyeshadow. I thought it was OK.

Dear Me at 17,


Firstly, I’m saying this with love but you need to get a fringe cut in and do something with that hair. It looks horrendous. Right now you think that it cute, but give it a few years and you will look back at those pictures with horror. Do it.

Pretty soon you’ll get real sick, and life will turn on its head. I’m sorry to say that they days of staying up late to finish Lit essays and drinking cans of full fat Coke to keep those eyes open will go down the pan, my friend. Sugar will become your biggest enemy and you’ll feel like you’ll never adjust. The doctors will be you’re second home and it will feel rubbish, but it gets better…. On the whole it’s fine. But you will still have those days where you want to curl up in your pjs and cry. I’m not going to lie to you.


You’re little sister has your back. Love and cherish her, some people aren’t so lucky as to have someone that adores them in their life. Quit being such a bitch.

Here’s the big one chick, Heidi dies. Enjoy the time you have with her now, in less than 2 years she will be gone. It will be instant and she won’t feel a thing, but remember what she told you when you lay in the park and looked at the stars; she doesn’t want to be mourned when she’s gone. Remember the fun times and the pain from laughing too much. Missing someone is positive; it’s a shadow of the love you had and the friendship you shared.

Don’t let people bring you down. You won’t go to Uni, but you know what, it won’t stop you. You’ll be successful and people will try to knock you down as you are so young and they are jealous. Don’t let them, and don’t do it to them. It won’t make your star shine brighter if you try to dim someone else’s. It will just make you feel bad.

He’ll break your heart. Constantly. And eventually it will all end. You’ll be super sad and you’ll feel like life is over, but when you catch up with me you’ll wonder what all the fuss is about. You know the way he treats other people that you hate? He’ll do that to you eventually.


Don’t take things for granted. It’s easy when you’re young, but you aren’t invincible, and nor are the people around you. Appreciate the beauty in your surroundings, the kindness in others and the privileges that you have. Not everyone has extensively travelled, gone to a good school and been able to have the freedom and free reign you had as a child. Count your blessings.

I love you, 17 year old me.

Belle xxx

What would you tell yourself at 17?


14 Responses to “Dear Little Darlin’”

  1. elroyjones July 16, 2013 at 5:10 pm #

    You were adorable; I just want to hug that girl and tell her how great she is!

  2. prenin July 16, 2013 at 5:41 pm #

    Tinks you are one wonderful person!!! 🙂

    Can’t write here what I’d say to myself aged 17 – too much seriously bad shit happened to me, especially with my sperm donor!!!

    He ain’t fit to be called a father… 😦

    You, however, are a shining star indeed and I love you for it!!! 🙂

    God Bless and huge squishy hugs!


  3. Sandra Bell Kirchman July 16, 2013 at 5:56 pm #

    OMG dear Belle, that was so heartfelt. It brought tears to my eyes. But I disagree with one thing. You were a regular little hottie when you were 17…even WITH the yellow eye shadow lol.

    I am so glad life isn’t weighing you down. Twenty-seven is a good age to be…you are coming out of young adulthood and into the mainstream of life. Yeah, in some cases it gets more serious, but in others, all the lessons you have learned start making a difference in the quality of your life. And I know you have learned many of the lessons very well.

    Happy belated birthday, hope it was great. I know that, if you follow your true feelings, you will be exactly where you need to be for the life you chose to live. *hug*

  4. visitingmissouri July 16, 2013 at 9:14 pm #

    All the hair in that picture! Who told you to do that? The Spice Girls? Seventeen year old you must have been shocked to see what would happen; maybe all you should tell her is what you’ve become.

    • tinkerbelle86 July 21, 2013 at 3:33 pm #

      I’ll have you know I was modelling myself on Scary Spice! Hahaha

  5. The Samantha Scriptures July 17, 2013 at 8:46 am #

    I absolutely loved your honesty in your last post. I found you by clicking your email address you left for me and I find you to be adorable. Eyeshadow disasters are the best. Funny I was dating this mortgage broker when I was 20 (ummm..that’s stretching it if you know what I mean), and for some reason that year Avon was obsessed with this eye color called Peacock Blue (2001). Well since Avon loved it I bought it and wore it out on a date with mr. mortgage broker. He was so embarassed for me because I looked like Barbie had a stroke while she was applying it. I mean full peacock blue lid. Haaa..well..didn’t last very long after that..I’m so glad I found you and will be following you!! Not stalking..I’m not in the UK..

  6. Go Jules Go July 17, 2013 at 12:15 pm #

    This is excellent! You’ve certainly seen your share of hardships in a mere 27 years. I think it’s really eye-opening to ‘talk’ to your former and future self. I’d tell 17-year-old me… “HA! No. Whatever you’re thinking right now about your future… NO.”

    P.S. – On a superficial note – I think you / your hair is GORGEOUS, then and now!

    • tinkerbelle86 July 21, 2013 at 3:34 pm #

      Thanks Jules. All I’m missing is a handlebar mustache, right?

  7. Sarah Shumate @ The Wanderblogger July 17, 2013 at 1:30 pm #

    Minus the yellow eye shadow, I think you look quite pretty! My photos from 17 are far more embarrassing seeing as I was pregnant! Man…the things I would like to have known at 17 that I know now…there are too many to list. Happy 27th birthday!

  8. Laynah July 17, 2013 at 2:21 pm #

    This is a great post! I think we all wish we could go back and tell our young selves something or other. I think I’d have to have a very firm talking to with 17 year old me haha.

  9. 1stpeaksteve July 18, 2013 at 12:40 am #

    The long haired look is not bad at all! Maybe you are hiding the pictures with a poodle perm.

    If I had to tell my younger self something, it would be to put all your efforts into whatever you attempt to accomplish. Sometimes luck, fate, or dedication can only keep that door open for so long and you have to step up to the plate and take the chance while you can.


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