As you all know, my plan for 2012 is a bit of a resurrection. New job, new home, new area, new outlook on life, and I have been specifically dealing with certain aspects of my world with a new outlook. I went through a LOT at the end of 2011, a lot that I am unable to share here, but it has left me one massive ball of stress, anxiety and nerves, a lot of which I wasn’t aware was so apparent to other people. My body needs a good massageto push away the knots of tension (I’m all over that one!) and my mind is gradually returning to a whole less stress. I attribute that to a bit of a change in outlook, but also to the people I am choosing to surround myself with.
My new years resolution was to do something different once a month; something that would maybe be unusual for my daily routine or push me out of my comfort zone. As is always true of January, I have been putting this one aside, trying to choose something and time has run away with me, but I have booked tickets for Friday night in Soho to go and see an up and coming comedian, and I can’t wait. I have only ever been to one comedy show, so this is my unusual thing for January. I’ll let you know how it goes.
But I need some advice. What do you do about unwanted attention? It’s a topic that I have overheard a lot recently; girls in the office getting advice about guys that they have met that they don’t really click with, people that they think are nice but don’t have a spark for and wanting to let them down gently. In the spirit of only surrounding myself with positivity, I don’t want to be mean for the sake of it, but I already have a Harry Potter and cheesecake partner in crime, and as much as being followed by a hareem of Jamie Redknapps, Ryan Reynoldses and Paul Nichollsies, one is enough.
Mine is a little different. You see, there’s this guy.
OOOhhhh! I bet you’re all thinking. Belle met a guy! Well, Belle did meet a guy, but this isn’t a conversation for today, because it’s not him im referring to. This is a whole lot different.
Unwanted Affection: Urban Dictionary Style. (It’s mean but I laughed so I included it!!)
person 2 ” sounds like some unwanted affection….”
person 1 “uh yeah, she’s missing three teeth and talks to herself”
I haven’t even met this guy. He has my number as I do some work freelancing, and had given him it to pass on to someone who might need their site rewriting. All fairly above-board, otherwise I never would have given it, not wanting to give the wrong impression and all that. He seemed nice at first, dropping me the odd text to let me know of progress, asking if I had a lot planned for the weekend etc. Like I said, I have never met him, although he added me on the social media channels etc. Bit much, but some people do that these days and it doesn’t automatically make them nutty, does it?
Then it started getting a bit much. He would call me once a week on the guise of the client, and I soon wised up to it and let it go to voicemail, responding by email after I had listened.
The texts kept flooding in. I didn’t want to offend him as at the time I wasnt sure of what I was doing for work and needed his help, but when asked if I wanted to meet up I always replied I was busy and that if I was in the area near his office I would pop in.
Over the last few days I have had about 30 messages. If he asks me what I’m doing at the weekend I normally tell him I am seeing the boy as I thought that might give him the hint he needs without me actually having to be confrontational about the situation and
lose the potential work. My friends have told me to change my number but it is used by so many contacts for work that I am reluctant to do so. I hate to be horrible to people but feel like he has become quite attached seeing as he has never even met me.
What do you think I should do? Have you ever had unwanted attention that you needed to sort out?