“I believe that everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go, things go wrong so that you appreciate them when they’re right, you believe lies so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself, and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.”
— Marilyn Monroe
My mum used to always say it to me when things went wrong; if I didn’t pass my ballet exam with the credit I wanted, if I got my heart broken or if a friend moved away. The same line that never seemed to have any comfort hidden in the words when I was a child; no burrowed little trinket of solace that you would find hiding beneath the sheets of her sayings ,and I always wondered what happiness she expected me to find in these words.
As a kid who always sought information; reading books and studying for exams, I always wanted to know why. What was the reason that this particular event was happening to me, and why not someone else?
It hit the hardest when I was diagnosed with diabetes at the age of seventeen, right before my AS Levels and at a time when I was kind of sick of it all happening to me, ‘for a reason’. But as I get older I realise that she was right, that wise mother of mine, and everything does happen for a reason. Just like Marilyn said, sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.
And for me it’s about strength of character. All my everything’s happened for a reason, and I now believe that I can take anything that is thrown at me. Yes, I might need a few days in my pyjamas with a family pack of Jaffa cakes and a whole river of tea, but I will bounce back with a “what? Something bad happened?” mentality. That’s just how I roll.
So if you are going through the mill at the moment, looking out the window and seeing nothing but the hammering droplets of rain falling from the angry clouds and your mood is mimicking the thunder, think on this. My mum and Miss Monroe are both right.
Everything happens for a reason. Every action has a reaction. Always remember that what’s meant to be will always find a way to come about.