Another of my friends has decided to dip her toe into the world of internet dating this week, with amusing consequences. I’m not going to go into it too much, but the conversations we have had, and prior conversations with other friends, not to mention my perception of people have made me think about what we, as girls, are really after. It’s like an experiment into human psychology, and I’m finding it really interesting.
The only thing that I can deduce from the whole process is that us girls are a little bit barmy. OK, we might be pretty and smell nice and be smaller and daintier than our male counterparts, but we are much more complicated and I can see the confusion from a male point of view.
Take a conversation between me and one friend. She told me she had been talking to a guy who seemed nice, liked flowers and was visiting his Nan that day. My response? “Is he a man or a mouse?!” I automatically made myself laugh. Girls go on about how they want someone in touch with their feelings and who can be nice and thoughtful, yet it a bloke tells you too soon that they like knitting and cats, we run for the hills. Or maybe it’s just me. I like rugby players and boys who prefer to be outdoors, but come to mention it; she didn’t actually seem to think it was that strange.
Example 2. Another friend (seriously, everyone is at it) read the profile of a man who had sent her a message to me. The message was really funny, nice and simple, and made us laugh. She then went to see what his profile said, and was sad to see that his friend had gone into far too much detail about him, stating he wanted a wife, liked kids and cooking and was handy with a Hoover (I’m ad libbing on this one but it was along those lines). She tried to see the positive, although the look on her face said otherwise. “Aaah” she said “he likes kids. That must mean he wants a family”. Or he is a paedophile.
I think there is something to be said about keeping some of yourself a secret and not telling your entire life story in a public domain. But at the same time it’s interesting to know what people are ultimately looking for. A girl might be looking for someone to marry, but if the guy says on the first date that he is wanting to get married as a priority, she is more than likely to not see him again. Odd.
The way I see it is that when you go on a date you go home and think one of two things. 1) I liked him/ he seemed nice/ we had fun. Or 2) he was a nut-job/ the conversation was boring/ I wanted to gouge my eyes out with a spoon/my friend had to call me to get me out of it.
The next question in your mind is do I want to see him again? Yes? No? That’s it. all these stupid games of leaving it twenty eight and a half hours before responding to a message or only eating salad on a date (believe me, I’ve heard it) are incredibly ridiculous.
So I am making the rash decision to say that men, you are right. Sometimes us girls are a little bit mental. But at the same time it’s a completely different ball game when you are a fairly normal girl who eats more than two lettuce leaves and a sliver of tomato as standard and who comes across a man like this. It’s a whole ‘nother world out there with an over thinker, and they are on the rise. Apparently it’s due to oestrogen in plastic food packaging, and why you shouldn’t drink tap water as “girls dissolve their pills in it”. That’s a direct quote, I’ll have you know. That’s clearly the problem. We are not TAKING the pills we are prescribed to keep us baby free, but putting them down the sink. The mind boggles! 🙂