Megan wrote a brilliant post recently about her ideal man (read here) and it got me thinking about the prince charming complex and how every girl dreams of her prince.
And then I read an article in Cosmo about how every girl has to kiss a lot of frogs to find her prince; apparently the UK girl’s average is 22 men to kiss, and we will have our heart-broken five times before finding the one. Not to mention that we will be cheated on four times and will meet at least one love online before settling down. If this is the case girls then get some Vaseline, you could be in for a long ride!
Apparently men are more choosy (or if you read the article the way I did then more tragic), as they will have 23 snogs, have their heart broken six times and have ten one night stands.
Goodness gracious me. What a load of guff!!
I don’t believe in Prince Charming; I think Disney have a lot to answer for here. There is no such thing as a perfect person, regardless of who they are and whether you love them, this perfect ideal is imaginary and I think it puts guys on a really bad footing. There are some things that girls should count as deal breakers (one girl I have heard of had to remind her boyfriend to have a shower otherwise he could go for weeks) but I think that love is loving someone despite their weaknesses, and recognising their strengths.
And magazines are not helping us here. We aren’t statistics; we are beautiful women who are strong and confident. I personally do not want to be number 18, or 4, or 9 on a list that someone thinks they should be aiming for; I want to be the girl that you will never forget. So that’s what I’m holding out for. Ideally though he must be able to take a joke and watch Pixar films. Just sayin’!
I’ve read a lot of blogs recently that are holding out for this dream man, the guy that will whisk them off their feet and make their dreams come true. I was telling a friend recently that after a spate of bad relationships (if you could call them that) she should try internet dating. She lives in London and there are loads of eligible bachelors! She said that she would give it a go, but it ruined her dream of “going up the escalator on the tube and catching eyes with a guy going down, and it being love at first sight”. To which I replied “sweetheart, the reality of it is that he would be running late so unable to turn back and you would like a crazy lady if you tried to run down the escalator th wrong way, so ultimately you are going to have to forget that dream.” Sounds harsh, but I swear it is NEVER GOING TO HAPPEN. Daily life / getting in trouble with the boss / guy being married / guy being mental would just totally get in the way.
So my point is ladies, stop dwelling over Mr Right, how you dream you will meet him / how he will look / what he will say. Your imagination is a wonderful thing, but if you built him up too high, he will never reach you.