You’re The One That I Want…. ooohohohohoooh Honey!

28 Mar

Megan wrote a brilliant post recently about her ideal man (read here) and it got me thinking about the prince charming complex and how every girl dreams of her prince.

And then I read an article in Cosmo about how every girl has to kiss a lot of frogs to find her prince; apparently the UK girl’s average is 22 men to kiss, and we will have our heart-broken five times before finding the one. Not to mention that we will be cheated on four times and will meet at least one love online before settling down. If this is the case girls then get some Vaseline, you could be in for a long ride!

Apparently men are more choosy (or if you read the article the way I did then more tragic), as they will have 23 snogs, have their heart broken six times and have ten one night stands.

Goodness gracious me. What a load of guff!!

I don’t believe in Prince Charming; I think Disney have a lot to answer for here. There is no such thing as a perfect person, regardless of who they are and whether you love them, this perfect ideal is imaginary and I think it puts guys on a really bad footing. There are some things that girls should count as deal breakers (one girl I have heard of had to remind her boyfriend to have a shower otherwise he could go for weeks) but I think that love is loving someone despite their weaknesses, and recognising their strengths.

And magazines are not helping us here. We aren’t statistics; we are beautiful women who are strong and confident. I personally do not want to be number 18, or 4, or 9 on a list that someone thinks they should be aiming for; I want to be the girl that you will never forget. So that’s what I’m holding out for. Ideally though he must be able to take a joke and watch Pixar films. Just sayin’!

I’ve read a lot of blogs recently that are holding out for this dream man, the guy that will whisk them off their feet and make their dreams come true. I was telling a friend recently that after a spate of bad relationships (if you could call them that) she should try internet dating. She lives in London and there are loads of eligible bachelors! She said that she would give it a go, but it ruined her dream of “going up the escalator on the tube and catching eyes with a guy going down, and it being love at first sight”. To which I replied “sweetheart, the reality of it is that he would be running late so unable to turn back and you would like a crazy lady if you tried to run down the escalator th wrong way, so ultimately you are going to have to forget that dream.” Sounds harsh, but I swear it is NEVER GOING TO HAPPEN. Daily life / getting in trouble with the boss / guy being married / guy being mental would just totally get in the way.

So my point is ladies, stop dwelling over Mr Right, how you dream you will meet him / how he will look / what he will say. Your imagination is a wonderful thing, but if you built him up too high, he will never reach you.

27 Responses to “You’re The One That I Want…. ooohohohohoooh Honey!”

  1. Jules March 28, 2011 at 8:10 am #

    urgh, I feel a bit deflated as I’ve kissed 0 men in my life. urgh. damn u magazines! *goes back to her mum’s issue of woman & home*….


    • tinkerbelle86 April 1, 2011 at 9:30 am #

      oh well, i guess the right one is worth waiting for xx

  2. earlybird March 28, 2011 at 8:57 am #

    Well said, Tinkerbell.

  3. vixter2010 March 28, 2011 at 11:43 am #

    Just an average looking, nice guy would do for me! They’re seemingly as impossible to find as Prince Charming 🙂

    • Megan March 31, 2011 at 2:24 am #

      Isn’t that the truth??!!?? 😉

  4. melissasmeanderings March 28, 2011 at 1:34 pm #

    Great points–if you wait for perfect you’ll be alone and waiting forever. Relationships are work no matter what…you can’t try to avoid that by waiting for Mr Right.

  5. Sandi Ormsby March 28, 2011 at 2:23 pm #

    yup- I didn’t think I’d walk into an interview, sit down, and have my brain say “You’re going to marry this guy.” during inteviewing process and my other half of brain saying “what? I don’t know this man..and I’m so not ready to get married” Seriously, that happened during my interview…I ended up being hired and worked for them just under a year…after leaving the company, about 6 months later, we hung out a few times…then I moved and about a year later, I contacted him and we were inseparable ever since.

    It was a long, drawn out process and we dated 4 years before getting married. Nothing like I had imagined or expected…then again, I suppose a movie can be made from that. I married the “nice” guy, the one that girls usually pass up to date their friend.


  6. prenin March 28, 2011 at 7:06 pm #

    I guess it’s a good thing I plan to stay a bachelor!!! 🙂

    There’s NO WAY I’d get involved now – I’m 50 and ‘way past the hormone games we play when we’re younger, but as someone who is ‘mental’ I have to point out that we’re just as likely to fall in love!

    Love and hugs always! 🙂


  7. Tracy March 28, 2011 at 7:40 pm #

    I think it’s possible to find someone who is 90-95% perfect for you. The key is to clearly identify the 5-10% that is that is missing, and then decide if you can live without it. If not, then it’s time to look for the next 90% guy who’s missing 10% is within your comfort zone. Make sense?

  8. simplyshaka March 28, 2011 at 11:15 pm #

    I don’t need Prince Charming just a man who is straight, employed and without mommy issues. You wouldn’t think thats a lot to ask for right?? Apparently it is.

    • tinkerbelle86 April 1, 2011 at 9:29 am #

      preaching to the converted on that one!

    • Mike September 4, 2011 at 10:40 am #

      what do you mean by mommy issues?

  9. Serene32 March 29, 2011 at 12:40 am #

    Perfect is indeed an illusion. Besides, how boring would life be if all of our dreams panned out exactly as we’d so painstakingly planned them?
    Never say never!
    Great post 🙂

  10. Redneckprincess March 29, 2011 at 1:46 am #

    I wanted to let you know I’m awarding you The Versatile Blogger Award!! You are one of the chosen

  11. Nicole March 29, 2011 at 1:55 am #

    I think we plan out who our Prince Charming will be and then when we really do meet him, we find out that he was nothing like we thought he’d be… but that he’s better because he’s just what we needed. Only we didn’t know what we needed until we met him. 🙂 That’s what happened to me. My hubby isn’t who I thought I’d end up with, but I am SO happy because he’s what I truly needed in a soulmate. So, yeah, you’re right. This planning on how we’ll meet Prince Charming and who he’ll be is just silly.

  12. Tim March 29, 2011 at 8:07 am #

    Nice blog.

  13. Rue March 29, 2011 at 9:50 am #

    If I read that Cosmo article I’d probably make a loud noise indicative of my quitting and throw in the towel. So depressed. 😛

  14. Sandra Bell Kirchman March 29, 2011 at 4:58 pm #

    It took me 65 years to find my Prince Charming. He’s not perfect but damned near. I don’t even want to think of how many frogs I’ve kissed in six and a half decades. But the Prince is here now and was worth the wait. Don’t give up, girls.

  15. Reggie March 30, 2011 at 1:32 pm #

    Very wise…

  16. Megan March 31, 2011 at 2:23 am #

    Awesome post lady!!!! Just to clarify a little as I did speak of prince charming in my post… at nearly 33 years old, I am wise enough to know that a perfect man does not exist just as I am not perfect either. The hypothetical “prince” I was speaking of is the man that is “perfect” for me. The one that fits me. The one that makes me happy… he need not be the most stunning man to walk the Earth, he may be dirt broke and come with baggage. Whomever he shall be, “prince” or not will be a “PERFECT” match for me. Thanks chica for linking back to my post 🙂 Very much appreciated.

    • tinkerbelle86 April 1, 2011 at 9:28 am #

      oh i know, it just sent me off on a tangent, i wasnt criticising 🙂

  17. Kristen April 4, 2011 at 8:00 am #

    Nice work.

  18. Annie Chang August 5, 2011 at 6:24 pm #

    Great blog! I agree with you about having to be proactive in finding the right guy. Hollywood movies tend to give the impression one day, you will ” bump” into the perfect man, and fall in love. In reality, one of the best ways to meet more men is online dating. =)

  19. Roshni December 21, 2011 at 1:35 pm #

    I’m someone who used to believe that I would find my Mr.Right someday…and when I thought I found someone like that, I realized that he was too perfect to be true…and well, he wasn’t really all that perfect, as I understood later. So, now, I have finally accepted that there is no such thing as a Mr. Right. Love happens when you are ready to be with a person inspite of his flaws… I loved the last line of this post! Very meaningful! Love your work!

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