Recycled Men

I read Jules’s blog about marriage recently, and as normal, it sent my mind pinging off onto a random thought process.

Recycled men.

No, I don’t mean men made out of old yoghurt pots and tin foil (although after my experiences with the opposite sex this might minimise a lot of stress!) I mean exs and men that are part of your past.

It has sparked a mental dialogue.

I used to firmly believe that if you had been with someone and it hadn’t worked then you should leave the past in the past. Josephine will back this up; whenever she tells me about guys that have text her, I holler “RECYCLING!” and insist she finds someone new. I recognise this isn’t super helpful.

But then I read a story about a girl who met a boy at school, went out, split up a year later and though nothing more of it. Then ten years later, when she had a child and had recently been divorced, he got back in contact. They have now been married for forty years.

So can it work? Can someone be right for you, but you just met them at the wrong time? And can splitting up with someone and getting back together with them after time has passed by ever be something that will work out?

I can’t work out if I’m a yes or a no on this one, after all I guess it depends how much time has gone by and how much the person has changed, or remains the same.

Please note Jo – if you are reading this, I will still be shouting recycled. I apologise, but some things never change!